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Introduction   ::   Problem Sources   ::   Moral Sense   ::  Two Worlds  ::   Escaping

Two Worlds of Experience & Emotions

"It is the nature of most humans to assume they are seeing the world correctly. This is self-fulfilling. We 'see' things in a way that assures us that our way of seeing things is right."
- C. Terry Warner

Discussion: Two Worlds

We experience two distinct worlds depending upon whether we are honoring or resisting our moral sense of how to treat others. One world is how we are living when being true to our individual moral sense of how to treat others. The other world represents what we become when we go against, or resist our sense of how to treat others. [This model is adapted from the Arbinger model, the content of which was created by C. Terry Warner].

Discussion: Different Emotions

Upon completing this exercise you may have realized that the thoughts, feelings, and emotions you experience when living in the constructive world are of a different quality than those experienced in the destructive world. You may have also noticed that all it takes for us to move from the constructive world to the destructive world is resisting or refusing to treat others as we felt we should.

Some of the emotions you may have identified in yourself and others as you thought about your experience living in the constructive world are:

  • Love
  • Happiness
  • Desire to please others
  • Peace
  • The right thing to do
  • Willing
  • Satisfied
  • Close to others
  • Responsible
  • Relieved

Some of the emotions you may have identified in yourself and others as you thought about your experience living in the destructive world are:

  • Anger
  • Guilt
  • Resentment
  • Justified
  • Frustrated
  • Impatient
  • Despair
  • Accusatory
  • Blame
  • Excuses
  • Defensive

Examples

Exercises

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