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Exercises

Intimate Questions

If you feel like your relationship is suffering due to work related stress, you can test your own level of relationship intimacy using the questions below. Answer each question or statement according to the following scale:

0 = Never or almost never
1 = Seldom
2 = Often
3 = Always or almost always

Work
0 1 2 3 My work interferes with my relationship with my partner.
0 1 2 3 My partner's work interferes with our relationship.
Relationship
0 1 2 3 How often do you praise or compliment your partner?
0 1 2 3 How often do you thank your partner for the things (s)he does for you?
0 1 2 3 How often do you and your partner laugh with each other?
0 1 2 3 How often do you say "Please" or "I'm Sorry" to your partner?
0 1 2 3 How often do you and your partner engage in uninterrupted talk time?
0 1 2 3 How often do you and your partner go on dates?
0 1 2 3 How often do you hug or kiss your partner?

Your score for the Work questions can range from 0 to 6 and your score for the Relationship questions can range from 0 to 21. Although there are no right or wrong answers to these questions, a higher score on the Work questions indicates that work is interfering with your relationship and a higher score on the Relationship questions indicates a greater level of intimacy with your partner. If you are not happy with your current level of relationship intimacy, work on changing some things so that work will be less of a problem in your relationship and so that you will be able to answer "Often" or "Always" to all of the Relationship questions.

Separating Work and Home Life?

Although it is impossible to completely separate your work life from your home life, there are some potential benefits from having a little separation between the two. Complete the following sentences so you will have a better understanding of how your work life affects different aspects of your home life.

  1. If I work overtime, when I get home…
  2. After a hard day at work, when I get home…
  3. If I feel hassled at work, when I get home…
  4. If my boss compliments me, when I get home…
  5. If things have gone well at work, when I get home…
  6. If my work environment has been noisy, when I get home…
  7. If I have been bored at work, when I get home…
  8. If I feel underpaid, when I get home…
  9. If I have to take orders all day, when I get home…
  10. If I am proud of my days work, when I get home…

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