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Dear Tech Support ...

"What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility."
- Leo Tolstoy

Dear Tech Support:
Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down in the overall performance - particularly in the flower and jewelry applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then installed undesirable programs such and NFL 5.0 and NBA 3.0. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.

I've tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, to no avail.

What can I do?
Signed,
Desperate

Dear Desperate:

First keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an Operating System.

Try to enter the command: C:/ I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME to download Tears 6.2, which should automatically install Guilt 3.0.

If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewelry 2.0 and Flowers 3.5. But remember, overuse of the above application can cause husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0, or Beer 6.1. Beer 6.1 is a very bad program that will create Snoring Loudly.

Whatever you do, DO NOT install Mother-in-law 1.0 or reinstall another Boyfriend program. These are not supported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly.

You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. I personally recommend Hot Food 3.0 and Lingerie 7.7.

Good Luck,
Tech Support

Personal Interests Introduction

The previous humorous account comparing a marriage relationship to computer software applications has a lot to do with differing interests and expectations. Although we may find the account amusing because there seem to be some similarities when we think of our own relationships, it is doubtful that husbands or wives change as much, or as dramatically, as is portrayed in this story. A more likely scenario is that some partners overlook the perceived faults of their mate during the engagement period because they are in love, they think the little issues that bother them aren't such a big deal, or that he or she will change after they get married.

Change in relationships certainly is possible and we can continue changing throughout our lives, but we should not enter marriage with the expectation that our partner will make dramatic changes to suit our needs. If you have differing interests and expectations from your partner, those issues should ideally be discussed before you tie the knot. That will help you avoid the dilemma of "I love you. You're perfect. Now change."

Take a few minutes now to answer the items on the Unrealistic Expectations exercise and the Marriage Expectation Survey below. This will give you some idea of how similar your expectations are with those of your partner and some areas you may want to work on.

Exercises

Marriage Expectation Survey

Copyright 2008, James P. Marshall. Cite/attribute Resource . admin. (2005, December 06). Personal Interests & Expectations. Retrieved January 08, 2011, from Free Online Course Materials — USU OpenCourseWare Web site: http://ocw.usu.edu/Family__Consumer____Human_Development/Marriage___Family_Relationships/Personal_Interests___Expectations.html. This work is licensed under a Creative Commons License Creative Commons License